When we think of forgiveness the first thing that often comes to mind is letting go and the book The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. The ideas of this blog post come from that invaluable book.
Letting go is a spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical process of releasing to the universe that which we are clinging to so tightly. Hanging on often blocks us from getting what we want and need. Letting go is accepting we can’t control other people, outcomes, circumstances, or life. When we let go, we stop trying so hard to do better, be better, be more. We ease up on ourselves.
If you’re a pro at letting go, here’s a refresher to help you work on those skills. And if you’re new to the concept, here are ideas to start you on your way to practicing letting go. To begin, ask yourself these questions and answer them in your head or in a journal. These questions will help you identify what you want and what you want to happen.
- What do I need to do to take care of myself?
- What makes me angry?
- What don’t I trust?
- What doesn’t feel right?
- What do I want? Need?
- What do I like?
- What would feel good?
Completing these exercises will help you nurture the voice inside you. In learning to trust yourself, you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and guide you to where you want to be.
There is magic in letting go. Sometimes you’ll get what you want soon after you let go. Sometimes it takes longer. Letting go of things that upset you creates the optimum environment for the best possible outcomes and solutions.